The quantity of fish in the sea is irrelevant if you don’t know how to fish in the first place. The fast-paced world of online dating has certainly streamlined courtship — but it also presents challenges that don’t exist in the offline dating world, making it hard even for experienced daters to fit in with all the digital singles.
Fortunately, it’s fairly easy for men to have a great experience with online dating. By following these four tips, you’ll avoid common pitfalls and fully harness the power of those dating algorithms to put your love life where you want it to be.
Choose Pictures That Reflect Your Personality
A picture can say a thousand words, but only if you choose the right picture. Unfortunately, most men’s dating profile photo doesn’t say anything more interesting than “I am a nicely-dressed and well-groomed man who took this selfie in my bedroom five minutes ago.” While possessing fine taste in clothing and quality grooming is commendable (and your picture could certainly say worse things), you’d be better off choosing photographs that make a statement about your personality.
Have a picture of you carefully measuring hops for your home-brewed beer? That’s a great way to show off your hobbies. Did you take a few photographs of you all smiles with your friends after you drank that beer? That could display you know how to cut loose. You can get more women interested in you by showing off what you’re all about, rather than just what you look like.
Avoid Courting A Criminal
Everyone has some skeletons in their closet. But some skeletons come attached with stiff prison sentences and lengthy probationary periods. You don’t have to wait until it’s too late to discover that someone you are pursuing online has a history of criminal behavior. By using an online service like InstantCheckmate.com, you can instantly check the public records of anyone who piques your romantic interest to see if they have had a tumultuous relationship with Johnny Law. If a background check shows that she has a habit of getting pinched for theft, you’ll know to save your flirty messages for someone else.
You know what they say about faint hearts and fair ladies. If you come across the profile of someone you are interested in, don’t mull over the millions of things you could possibly say in order to get her attention. Just be direct, and specify why, of all the people you could send a message to on the site, you decided to message her. It’s possible she won’t respond, but it’s also possible it will lead to a few awesome nights out or even a long-lasting relationship. You’ll never know if you don’t step up.
When you meet people face to face, you’re less inclined to tell fibs in order to make yourself look like the coolest thing to ever walk into a singles bar. But when you are separated by a computer screen, you might be more tempted to make yourself an inch or two taller, claim you went to a more prestigious university, or have traveled to places you’ve only seen on the National Geographic channel.
Resist the temptation. Being completely honest increases the chance that you’ll actually connect with someone, and it will put your true personality out there.