Marriage: My Life as a Princess Bride

My Life as a Princess Bride

Today, November 17th is my wedding anniversary! 6 years ago I met my husband. We were instant friends, family, and lovers. I wasn’t exactly a princess bride on our wedding though!  5 years ago, all of my wedding plans ‘went out the window’when we were on our way to the gym. My husband turned to me and told me that he didn’t want to wait any longer, and so… we did it! In downtown San Diego, under the palm trees, over-looking the bay, the county clerk married us… in our gym clothes! It was very romantic and was very ‘us’. I smile every time I tell that story.

Today, I thought I would share the top ten reasons why I love being married!

1. My Teacher:

My husband has taught me so much. He pushes me, and I learn my strengths. He will never just ‘do it for me’, he makes me learn to do it myself and I appreciate that so much.

2. Intimacy:

There is nothing more special than sharing intimate moments with your spouse. Free of judgement, intimacy can grow to all new levels.

3. Family:

A deep relationship with lot’s of love grows even deeper when children enter the family.  Sharing the love of a child is something very special, especially when both parents are mature enough to appreciate every little moment.

4. People to Care for:

My mother died when I was a small child and my father was rather clueless when it came to raising a girly girl (so…I was the girl with raggedy hair and cut off shorts made from pants, lol).

I so envied other children growing up who had mothers to cook and clean for them, to shop with, and to do their hair, lol! Because of this void, motherhood really fascinated me. I wanted to one day be the 7th heaven or a Disney channel mother.

I feel so thankful and fortunate that I now have a husband and children to take care of.

5. True Love:

When true love and passion are involved, magical things can happen. Someone who truly loves and respects you, gives you the room you need to, to evolve. Your partner becomes someone you can grow with instead of grow apart from. With love and passion in my life it also allows me to focus better on my goals…and well, everything so much more.

6. The Struggle:

Marriage is not a fairy tale. Everyday is a struggle one way or another. We have to work at it constantly. It takes patience and requires one to develop problem solving skills appropriate to the personalities involved. Many marriages are too easily lost. Our parents or grandparents didn’t make it to their 50th wedding anniversaries without any major struggles. From the beginning, we decided that we should never go to bed upset. We have to work out whatever it is. This allows time to get everything off your chest and avoids resentment. Plus, that is valuable snuggle time that could be wasted! 😉

7. Security:

No matter what happens during my day I know I have my family to come home to. No matter what happens in my life, I know I have my husband to help me through it.

8. Extended Family: 

Growing up, it was just my father and sister so having new extended family to grow relationships with is very special for me.

9. Acceptance:

The first year of marriage is fun…like one long honeymoon. The second year is a little harder, suddenly flaws are less cute and more annoying. It’s a transition period. A time to learn how the other person likes their life/things organized and vice versa and also learning to compromise. I have accepted that my husband is a serious Virgo and he has accepted that I am a carefree Sagittarius, lol. After a few years go by, you know who should do what in the relationship, what makes the other happy, mad, sad, etc. and things just get better and better.

10. Trust

Honesty creates trust. It is sometimes hard to swallow but when you have someone who always tells you the truth, there are no doubts when issues arise. It takes a long time to build that kind of trust but it’s the platform of a good marriage, in my opinion.

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Credits:

Photography by Reuben Dixon of Glamtography.

Photoshop for the first photo was done by Glamtography. The rest were done by me! I’m new to Photoshopping backgrounds, so they aren’t perfect but it was so fun!

Model is me, Jessica Feigner of Event Makeup.

Dress was provided by M Bride in La Jolla California.

Dress Designer: Monique Lhuillier/ Style: Pauline/ Color: Silk White

#47 Lashes by Lilly Lashes.

See video for applying false lashes.